On Tuesday morning, I had an off-site breakfast meeting scheduled with my bosses for 10:30. A little late for me to have breakfast, but we were having it at Murphy’s Diner, which has a Paleo menu. Since I had planned to go into work late anyways, it wasn’t too big of a deal eating a later than normal breakfast.
I had originally planned on running at the gym, before heading into work at 10, but when the meeting was requested, I moved around my morning off and squeezed in a small 1.5 mile run at home. I had a mini shake after just to tide me over, before heading to the diner. I sat there. Waiting. Ready to talk. No one arrived. I felt like I had been stood up on a date.
I wasn’t informed that earlier that morning the breakfast meeting had been rescheduled. No text, no call, nothing. I was irked for the lack of information, but more so because when you eat Paleo and you plan on a breakfast out, what is a girl supposed to do when you don’t pack that meal for the day?
I was mad. So mad. I hightailed it out of there and headed next door to the grocery store to try to put some sort of breakfast together before driving into work. I debated and debated, but settled on a plain, greek yogurt with sun butter, with a side of roasted sweet potatoes. Not true Paleo, but in certain circumstances, you have to make best of your situation. Luckily, plain Greek yogurt didn’t bother me at all!
(I bought this brand because all I could picture was John Stamos licking his lips).
That entire situation got me thinking a lot about what I had learned the night before at the “Get the Guy” seminar that Jenny and I attended in Boston. You guys might remember that over the summer, Jenny introduced me to Matthew Hussey’s Get the Guy book, and I was instantly obsessed with his wealth of knowledge.
He currently has a tour throughout major cities, where he gives a 5ish hour seminar, in which he digs deep into his book and how we can relate to his advice and insight, and then put it to use.
From 6:30 until 11:45, we got to enjoy this British hunk’s glorious accent. While the seminar covered a lot of what we learned in his book, it was really helpful hearing him talk for hours and put everything to use with role plays and examples. Several parts throughout the night, he had us get up and just have crazy dance parties, in which I wiped pools of sweat off of my forehead.
Adorable.There were 2 things that really stuck out to me. One is getting out there and swinging. Matthew said that as long as you get out there and swing, that’s all that matters. You might swing in several different directions, and the outcome might not be what you had expected (maybe it’s better!), but at least you’re out there.
He also talked a lot about your perceived value. We settle in life because we perceive we can’t do better and that “this” is what we deserve and nothing better will come along. Stop thinking like that. And that whole cancelled breakfast meeting mess really changed my view on a lot of things. I didn’t feel that my time was being valued. Instead of just brushing it off, I talked to my boss and asked her in the future to call or text me. In between work, CrossFit, and my blog, my time is limited, so I place a lot of value on how I spend my time outside of work.
It doesn’t matter what the situation is. Work, relationship, etc. If something isn’t working for you and you either aren’t happy or you feel you’re not being perceived as having value, well, stop whining and make a change, speak your mind, do something. Get out there and swing. Make moves, just don’t be stagnant and accept less than what you deserve.
Matthew lit a fire in my ass, and the motivation and determination to 200% chase my dreams is burning through my veins. Hopefully this means in the future there will be changes in my life. I’m not saying which parts of my life this will affect, but there will be changes.
How do you react and what do you do when you believe you’re value isn’t being acknowledged?