What makes a good friend? There are so many things, such as: someone who listens to you at every hour of the day, that doesn’t judge you for your past or present, laughs at your stupid jokes, doesn’t make fun of you for wearing sweatpants that are 2 sizes too big.
I witnessed a moment of a real friendship yesterday at CrossFit. We had two 10 minute workouts to complete, and with the humidity and heat, we were already drenched in sweat 5 minutes into our warm-up.
2 grueling workouts. Sweat was pouring off of us. The last workout I literally was ready to vom. Miserable. I had a swamp of sweat in my bra. Just really cute.
After the workouts were finished, I still had the “Competitor’s” workout to do. 20 minutes of rowing, where we alternated minutes of:
- 1 minute at 90% effort
- 1 minute at 50% effort
I jokingly looked at Sara, and asked her if she wanted to row with me. Her first question was, “how long?” …. “20 minutes,” I replied. “20 minutes?!” she exclaimed. “Okay.”
Well that was easy. After 2 workouts full of heavy deadlifts, running, alternating lunges, push-ups and ring rows, our legs and arms were shot. Within the 1st minute of rowing, I wanted to quit. By the 8:00 minute mark, I said I only wanted to do 10 minutes. Not once did this girl say, “okay, let’s stop early.”
This is a picture of us painting, not rowing. This was the first night I met her. Clearly we are weird and knew we would be friends for life.
We rowed and rowed and rowed. We talked about puppies and ice cream. We talked about A LOT of ice cream. We let out cries. Sara started singing. My grip was slipping. Our asses were sore. I was getting tight in my shoulders. We kept going. And going. And going.
And we finished together. Looking a bit sweatier and grumpier than this picture, but we finished, and we finished together.
That’s a friend. Someone who doesn’t have to do extra work, but will do it with you so that you don’t have to do it alone. Someone who will torture themselves for 20 extra minutes even after a taxing morning. Someone who doesn’t let you quit. A friend is with you from the beginning to the end. A friend will talk to you about random things, like the ice cream she tried and the toppings she got on her sorbet, to get your mind off of painful moments.
And now, I owe this girl an ice cream.